ADD spouse to be thinks I am always negitive

My spouse thinks that I am the negitive one & I
always wrong. It all started again on monday when we tried to go buy furniture. He & sales person were talking & they were discusing room colors. I said our living room is rust not red. he said no it is campbell soup red. it was like what ever i said I was the negitive one? when we got home i brought it up when we were measuring the dementions of the room. he said what does it matter about the color when this is a old house? I said it still should match our color scheme. he ended up walking out on me & went for walk & did not want to talk to me for the rest of the day. he left a note asking me if i was snooty because the sales person had his attention? and he had her draw a diagram of sectional with the lounge coming out that would be by our wood stove. so I had brought that up also. he argued with me and under my breath.
he said in front of sales girl why do you have to be so negitive? I was embarassed as I was just mentioning that that would not work & what the actuual color of room was. I continued to draw floor plan of room. later when i came back from store the first thing out of his mouth was the plans you drew are in feet not inches. I said i had put both inches & feet on the plan and what difference does it make. it can be figured out really easy?

Since then he has text me saying i am insane & it seems he does not get it. i keep asking him why can't he ever just listen to what i have to say. he says i should not talk. that i am a stupid ass. i ask him if he would maybe not always tell me i am negative and maybe more positive to my comments then maybe i would not seem so negative to him?

He never listens to what I have to say & usually interupts me before I am finished. He turns things around. He says I am negative when he is the one always looking for something I have done wrong. Lately he is telling me I have 2 days to quit job or work days not nights. go to 12 step aa meetings.

i am on the defence all the time. I spend to much time in the bathroom, I just can not do anything correct in his eyes.

also, i had ny hair dyed & hair extensions put in a few months ago & it ended up a disaster. my over processed hair w/extensions started falling out. I never said anything to him until lately. about 2 months went by. i was hiding the areas that i was bald and dinaklly decided when it grew out a inch that i would cut it short so it can now grow out pretty evenly. i look horrible with short hair so i bought a wig to wear when i am at work or we go out. the other day i lost it as i was just depressed about my hair. he said he feels bad about it but it will grow. i cried for along time. It really was a huge mistake i made to get these extensions and very expensive one too. then in text after we argued about the above issues with furniture. he says to me that i have spent hours messing with my hair in bathroom and now all i can do is keep blameing the hairsalon for what happurt as he does not know all the details i tried to explain but he thinks i am blaming them for what i did to my hair.

help. i will love to hear wht anyone feels about this mess i am dealing with???