Discussions On Confidence

Dna nightmare  
I just found out my dad is not my biological father. I’m crushed. How do I move on. How do I find myself again? I’m so lost

Mothers of sons - tough boat to row 
Hello, I've read some posts here regarding Mothers of sons and having to let them go or be okay with being marginalized once they've grown & married. …

Who am I? 
I found out by accident that my father was not my biological father at 38. I am now 60 and my Mother knows who my biological father was but won't tell …

COWARD 
You focus on the unprovable because you're cowards who lack confidence. So, you lie, and act self important, while protected from being held accountable …

Inspirational quote by RVM 
If we live without trying to make our Dreams come true, we are no better than the table and chair lying in front of us, just existing till they are moved …

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You can be who you want to be, if you stop being, what others want you to be. Live your Life Philosophy.

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If you let anyone tie your Wings with Strings, you can never Fly in the Sky! Your Independence, Your Freedom is Your Biggest Gift.

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The best thing to give is to forgive. It is a gift not only to the one who gets it but also to the one who gives.

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We all know that Hurry is the main cause of Worry. Yet we Hurry and Worry and miss the most beautiful experience called Life.

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Wake up in the morning and get into each day, living it in a way that will make you happy and gay.

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Many people are hurt in Life. But the problem is not the hurt. They Curse, Nurse, and Rehearse their hurt instead of Reversing it, and Live miserably.

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Some people say, “WE CAN!” Others ask “CAN WE?” The same two words, but how we say them makes all the difference.

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In life what you ASPIRE will TRANSPIRE—be it Loss or Gain, Sun or Rain, Joy or Pain.

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You make the Choice and thereafter that Choice makes you. You create your Dream and thereafter that Dream creates you.

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The simplest way to Rejoice is to Count your Blessings and be grateful for them. You will automatically feel Joy in your Heart.

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Dare to share for to Give is to truly Live.

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Be brave. Don't just live in your cave till your grave.

My brothers father isnt who he thinks it is 
When I was 8 going on 9, I caught my mother having sex several times with my friends 16 year old brother. My step dad was overseas in the Navy. The whole …

Is jealousy negative thinking? 
A very close friend told me that she thinks that jealousy is negative thinking. What say you.

Imagine 
It is still all in our imagination. We just have to believe and dream.

Feeling like an outsider which causes me to not like self  
Disabled with a Doctoraye, loss no longer able to work.no reason to go on

hi I'm Alyssa  
I feel different when I'm around Others I feel like I'm not Connected with the others

hi I'm Alyssa  
Every time when I go to school I feel different i Feel like I don't belong in this world i feel like everyone Is connected together but then me I'm not …

Less and less confidence 
Hello. My name is Rinku and I'm medical student. My life is pretty normal except for the fact that lately I've been losing more and more confidence …

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Depression 
This is a great website for younger people - full of ideas and help on how to put your life together. But I am 65 years old, stuck in a job I hate in a …

She claims to be my half sister 
Hi,My wife never met her father, it was a big family secret who he was, she was born illegitimate which was shamefull in the late fifties.Anyway, fast …

My Own Worst enemy 
It seems others like/love me more than I do myself. For years I was confused by the positive feedback I was getting from people. Wondering why they said …

I confronted my narcissist. 
From my research, I have always read not to confront a narcissist about his behavior. I decided I wanted to save our relationship, and did so any how. …

Any hope for blamers? 
First of all are all blamers narcissistic? If narcissistic people can not love then blamers can not love either...correct? And if one follows your …

i need advice on having a DNA test 
Hi all, I have never done one of these things before so you will have to excuse me if I ramble. The reason I am reaching out for help on here is because …

Confidence In The Workplace 
Hello all, I work in a position that can become high pressure if you're not focused on the task at hand. I am 50 and new to this company. I have experience …

Not my Biological Father? 
My parents divorced when I was 5. Unusual, my mother signed full custody of my brother and I over to my father. My father raised both me and my brother …

friendship drifting to a different direction!! 
am a gal and my best friend who is a boy is now attracted to me sexually we both are in no way ready for any relationship but he wants me to hangout with …

When due to whatever reasons, you are down and out-Remember these Golden Rules. It will help you-Penned by A.D.Mohla (ADM) 
When due to whatever reasons, you are down and out-Remember these Golden Rules. It will help you-Penned by A.D.Mohla (ADM) When we are down and seemingly …

life direction the 3 parts 
I need a brief description of vision, plan of action & setting goals what's the importance of each 3

Forgiveness and domestic violence 
I need some relationship advice. I was with my ex for about 2 years. The relationship started off fine. He had recently separated with his wife of 12 years …

Guilt Stopped Me From Feeling Good About Myself 
Hi Catherine, First I want to say that I love your website. There is so much information and really valuable. Congratulations with such a genuine site! …

Sister Relationship 
We are three sisters in our family and I am the youngest. My middle sister is 10 years older than me and my elder 12 years older. My elder sister and …

why i feel the odd one out in all my family? 
my girls in my family all girly girl like barbie and all and boys in my family all into boy stuff like normal but me iam a girl and i love doctor who …

how to change my attitude to give one word reply.. 
how to change my attitude to give one word reply..

I found out my father isnt actually my father  
I also found out that my dad is not my real dad. I feel like no body gets it. My situation is slightly different tho, My "dad" and mam split up when I …

How can you re-build self-esteem? And is it truly possible to do that in a year? 
With the thought of the new year comes an exhaustive list of all the things a person sets out to do in the new year, most of which rarely gets accomplished. …

Guilty of my past 
Hi all, When I was 15 years old I was sexually abused by a gay many times. Though It was not my mistake, being a victim of a gay person,i feel guilty …

Narsasstist controlling daughter n law 
My stepson of 38 yrs was married at 18 had 3 kids by 25..him & wife#1 did drugs didn't take care of the kids so at 6,7&9 we the grandparents took them …

living with a controlling paranoid negative person 
Hi my name is sue-ann i am 36 years old and divorced with 2 kids i am a qualified dispensing optician but not employed at the moment. I live with a 53 …

Why bother? 
I'm 61, marriage number 5 is disintegrating, just moved into the smallest place I've lived in since I was 21. I'm way too old to be in this position, …

disconnected from society 
I AM A 62 YR OLD GAY MALE AND SUFFERED FROM DEPRESSION FOR YEARS.ALWAYS FELT ASHAMED OF WHO I AM. I HAVE NO FRIENDS,AND VERY ISOLATED HAD TO TAKE EARLY …

WHO AM I? 
My mother told me when I was 22 years old and expecting my first child that my father was not my biological father. It was a blow to my heart and the beginning …

Need some advise 
Hi Catherine, My name is Joel Ng and I am Malaysian citizen. I live in Madrid Spain with my wife. Thanks god that I have found your website and it …

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Molestation, Shame, Acceptance, Comfort, Life 
I was molested by cousins in my childhood. I have always experienced extreme shame when dealing with my immediate family and relatives. Some family members …

Negative husband  
My husband has pain and often get negative about life expecially if he had a bad day. But it's getting worse and it's draining me. I'm emotionally exhausted …

My worth for her death 
a year ago i have been in one of the best relationships i have ever been in yet i find myself not good enough for him and always questioning how he feels …

relation 
Im married and naw we gona start one life to gether. But im afraid becouz im a man and dont have too much good finance like her,and that can broke one …

Terrible father with terrible life 
Hi, For years, my dad neglect his responsibilities.He don't give money to wife and children since marriage. When he was rich, he didn't care about us …

Eliminate depression with a camera! 
How to eliminate depression and become positive again! We all at some time get depressed,we feel the pressures of work or relationship,money,you name …

Speak English and lower stress 
Do you use or hear others use the common words"No problem"? well for most of us it is not any matter, but try this, instead of responding to someone with …

Daughter blaming me for not doing enough for her 
I can't afford to send my daughter to the college of her choice. My credit isn't good to sign for private loans and she hasn't shown me that she can be …

Negative Comments 
What should I say when someone says: "You're late!"? Only to mean I'm later than I usually am. This truly angers me.

What is with my husband?? 
I have been married for 2 years now and we have been together for 3 years. Throughout those years, I always noticed that my husband seems a little rude …

Lost two male friends in one day 
I am a mature lady. I don't have many friends. One best friend of 15 years (we will call him Tim) and one of 8 years - we will call him Ken. Tim and …

ADD spouse to be thinks I am always negitive 
My spouse thinks that I am the negitive one & I always wrong. It all started again on monday when we tried to go buy furniture. He & sales person were …

When do I stop trying? 
I am a people pleaser , I try to make my bosses happy, I try to follow all their rules . I take all their negatives & put downs, sometimes as an individual …

Forgiving myself for cheating 
I recently cheated on my on again off again girlfriend of 5 years. The last 6 months or more have been so emotionally charged. Very negative environment …

Hate my negative outlook on life 
I hate my negative outlook on life. I know that life isn't all good but I seem to focus on the bad!

Despair 
I feel like my life is out of control. I feel heavy and completely unmotivated to perform even the simplest of tasks. I am very overweight and do want …

Frustration/Confusion From Losing a Job 
My job of twelve years was suddenly eliminated as it was no longer needed. Because of my length of service, relationships with co-workers and senior position, …

I feel im destined for misery regardless of what i do. 
Hi, I grew up in a beautiful family with good parents and 5 other brothers and sisters. My father passed away when i was 16 yrs old (im now 29 female) …

Anger 
I'm Shal from India. Always anger overpowered me till date. I try to get into meditation but unable to concentrate but still a bit found that i was not …

Family Negativity 
I need help. My sister is killing me. I love her to death, but I can't take it anymore. My sister has had more than her share of bad luck and I mean …

Mom takes stand with daughters  
I have two adult daughters 37&40. For 25 years they have been fighting with each other and venting to me. I always felt as a mother I had to listen. They …

Perplexed about Coworkers 
I have a problem. It has been bothering me for quite some time. It all started with a corporate takeover of the company that I work for. With the takeover, …

Missing someone terribly? 
Hi! I'm a 21-year-old girl missing a part of my past terribly. I need to know what to do when you miss someone unbelievably but they just won't talk to …

Who Am I? 
I remember while taking a Psychology class, this was the main question through the entire term. We were suppose to write a paper on this question of "Who …

what desicion should i take 
Dear sarija, i am really confused of my future. i m very much dippressed.kindly help me to take better decision in my life Few years back in my school …

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Building yourself up by putting others down 
People who are approval seekers seem to be the ones who will make others look bad to make themselves look better. What really is their motivation here? …

turning within to not go without 
hello for the past week I have felt I wanted to disappear.I am tired spiritually.tired of pushing,pulling,waiting,hoping...I feel I am stood on top …

i feel i am loosing myself 
hi i am an indian. i love a guy and we want to get married but our parents are strongly aganinst our relationship. They have even verbally abused each …

Relationships with in-laws and sister-in-laws 
In the past, I have only dated men that have sisters or a mix of sisters and brothers. I have had no problem getting along with my boyfriend's parents …

in law confusion 
Hello, My name is Kasey and I am 61 years old. I have a problem with my son's wife, she is a very negative person. She has some health issues and has no …

Anger/ frustration 
(not going to bore you with every details, but here's a bit of what's bothering me) My father and I have never really bonded. Ever since I was a child, …

self-esteem 
I moved out from home about 10 months ago to start college. Everything is going great.. my profs were awesome...my community leader were very welcoming …

Born a full century out of time 
Having serious issues dealing with anything happening outside my front door. I can't cope with the way people are and the way things are. Everything sends …

Who am I? Finding out that my father is not my biological father. 
In 1992 after having my first child, my Mother decides to tell me that my Dad is not my biological father. I was 24 years old and completely devastated. …

What do I want 
After years of being in bad relationships and being very submisive, I met the right guy. He taught me to be confident, made me aware of my beauty (inner …

group talking  
when i need to talk before a group of a few people i always suddenly get scared and stressed or excited about what im gonna say (if it will be right/wrong …

are those signs of jelaousy? 
2 years ago my husbands friend got married. His wife and I very soon become close friends. I really like her,better say adore her, she is so smart,self …

gossip 
i am playing table tennnis and before every competition i am afraid that i will lose and people would laugh/talk bad things etc about that. I am afraid …

Putting Myself Down!/why do I always blame myself???????? 
If I had to make a list of the things I could feel good about myself for that list would be very slim. If I were to make a list of the bad things about …

Priorities in life 
I will be presenting to a Ladies Bible Class this topic. This is a most diverse group: retired college professor grandmothers to single mothers with only …

I just don't feel like I ever fit in 
I am so sick of feeling like the odd person out ALL the time. Ever since I was little I just never felt like I fit in and always felt like the odd man/woman …

i m soo angry person 
hi..... i have a 2 years and 7 months baby. Sometimes I am so angry with him and even with my husband. Sometime I feel so sorry for them and feel to hurt …

MENTAL NUTTER 
I am so angry. I've had medication, I've seen shrink after shrink from the nhs even paid privately, none of it works. i get angry every day over nothing …

why am i angry? 
i am always angry!!! i have been angry since i was a little girl. i am always mad. i get mad over every thing! i have seen doctor over doctor, and weirdo …

How do I become more successful in product design? 
Last year I finished my degree in Product Design which I really enjoyed doing. My current job has a bid to do with design but not to a large extent. My …

Relationship with grown sons 
I was a good mother and yet my grown sons, (married with children)really don't have much to say to me. One regards his aunt with great affection and I …

Hate My Job - Mid Life in my 30's 
I hate my job. I feel angry and depressed all the time. I bring home my anger. My poor family. I want to quit my job and find something new. But with …

Letting Go of Unhealthy Friendships 
I'm 26, newly married, and I try to avoid confrontation at all costs. Over the years, I have had a negative and rocky friendship with a girl that started …

angry all the time 
I don't understand angry. My husband is always angry. He is angry at me for everything. My kids notice it. He is sweet and bending backwards for his …

My kid's attention 
Hi, I have a 18 month toddler who spends a lot time with his father because I am the one who is working. I realize that my son does not pay me enough …

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Re article on needing others' approval 
I have read many of the articles on this website and they are all very inspiring. However, a lot of the ideas are very centered on the self, like we …

Vicious circles and insecurity 
I seem to be in a vicious circle of becoming close to people with big personalities, only to feel, after time, swamped by those personalities and inclined …

frustration 
how do you breakthrough frustration...do you use it as leverage to make dramatic changes? Visitor's Comments Date: August 25, 2008 Posted …

Outsider's Fear, Anger, Depression 
There's a war going on... inside me. I was at a personal development weekend in February in the US, and as was part of the program, I sat in tears opposite …

confused when verbally abused 
HI my name is Anna and this evening I was looking for a way of dealing with some of my "problems" when I came across your website which I find very positive …

smoking-be-positive-instead 
to cope with life do positive things because smoking confuses ya brain cells.Our bodies r controlled by the brain coordination.Smoking marijuana holds …

logical thinking? 
I lack self-confidence because I do dumb things sometimes. I don't reason or think logically and I have poor problem solving skills. How can I deal with …

Different Standards and Rules for Myself and Others 
I want to know why I have such impossibly hard standards for myself and why I have such compassionate standards for other people. For example, I have …

negativity from people regarding weight 
How do people deal with negative people who put others down regarding weight? The experience of say a female"friend" who unfairly puts you down or the …