Being harassed while walking

by Anonymous

People harass others by following them and telling other people falsities about them so they won't do the things for themselves that they like to do, for example walk, if that person likes to exercise, whatever, they pick up on and then they will make the person feel like they need to gain weight instead of losing it. If that person wants to gain or lose weight and that person is fine with the way they are or whatever, that should be none of their business, but they act like they have no life. And so they want to destroy the person anyway they know how to.

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Visitor's Comments
Date: February 22, 2008
Posted by: Catherine, www.Life-With-Confidence.com

Hey Anonymous,

I'm not sure I totally understand what you're trying to say. Are you being harassed by people when you go for a walk? They're telling you that you need to gain weight?

You're right that the people who put you down, are hurt themselves. They put you down in order to feel better about themselves. You might want to check out my article, "How to deal with people who put you down".

Focus on what you want. If you like walking and it makes you feel better, then focus on that. Realize that the people bothering you are just trying to get a reaction out of you.

They're also trying to push your emotional triggers. What I mean by that is that if you feel insecure about your weight, they will pick up on that and make their comments to get a reaction out of you. If you can ask yourself, "what do I feel when they make those comments?" you can start to figure out what buttons they're pushing. Do they make you feel you're not good enough, or that you're wrong in what you're doing? Figure that out and then you'll know what button they're pushing. Usually, once you're aware of what emotion they're triggering, you can let it go. Their comments won't affect you anymore because you're aware of what's happening.

If you're dealing with issues like not feeling good enough, work on healing those issues. Then, when people make comments to you, you'll notice them but they won't have any effect on you. You'll know that the comments tell you so much about that person and where they are mentally.