When Love Is One Sided

by Anonymous

I love a girl who doesn't love me ... and, she's ill. I know, it's sounds like a bloody soap opera. I've read all the tabs here. I know about the power of my mind and that I'm drawing this to myself. Yet, here I sit.

What's it all about Alfie?

The boy who loves the girl who doesn't love the boy.

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Visitor Comments

Date February 5, 2008
Posted By: Catherine, www.Life-With-Confidence.com

Hey Anonymous,

Always a tough situation. Without knowing all the details, there could be a couple of things happening here.

First, have you had this happen before where you love someone and they don't love you back? It could be a pattern for you and that you're attracted to the people who aren't interested in you. It could be a sign that you have some inner beliefs about love that you need to look at. Here's an article I wrote which will give you some more ideas on this:
Why Do These Things Happen?

Another question I have is was she sick before you fell madly in love? Is there a possibility that part of your feelings have to do with wanting to "rescue" or "take care" of other people. Some people have this incredible desire to rescue or save anything that's in distress. So, you may want to consider if that's an issue as well.

Also, with her being ill, that may be one of the reasons why she doesn't want to have a relationship with you. You didn't say how ill she was but if it's a really serious illness, she may not want to have you go through that with her or feel that there's no point in having a deep commitment with someone. Or, she may just feel so sick that she doesn't have the energy to focus on a relationship right now.

So, when you think about a relationship with this person, what are the things you really like about her? What draws you to the situation?

Love is such a strong emotional situation for everyone and there could be a lot of different things happening here. So, if you'd like to provide a few more details, we could work through things a little bit more.